5 Days To A Healthy Self-Esteem

Day 4: 

Eliminating Toxic Relationships 

Welcome to Day 4 of the Self-Esteem Challenge. Let’s keep the ball rolling! 

Today we’re going to be discussing the important subject of toxic relationships. 


Every person has toxic relationships in their life. People who constantly criticize. Who never stops complaining. Who only focus on the negative. Who dump all their problems on others. 

These toxic relationships are INCREDIBLY detrimental to self-esteem. They make you feel bad all the time and put a dark cloud over your head. 

Israelmore Ayivor said: 

7 things negative people will do to you. They will... 

1. Demean your value 

2. Destroy your image 

3. Drive you crazily 

4. Dispose of your dreams 

5. Discredit your imagination 

6. Deframe your abilities 

7. Disbelieve your opinions 

This is why negative people must be, if not eliminated from your life, then drastically minimized. They will drag you down, crush your self-esteem, and leave you miserable. 

It’s time for you to SURROUND yourself with people who affirm and value you. With people who love you for who YOU are. 


Take out a sheet of paper and write down the three relationships that have the most toxic effect on you. 

Take time to think through this. Who criticizes you the most? Complains the most? Dumps their problems on you the most? Who always makes you feel like garbage. 

Resolve to spend less time with these people. You may not be able to cut these people out of your life, but you can certainly spend less time with them. Or if they are close family, you can approach them about how you feel. 

Now write down the three most positive people in your life. Those who encourage and affirm you the most. Those who make you feel happy. Those who appreciate you the most. 

Resolve to spend MORE time with them. Call one of them immediately and try to set up a time to get coffee together. 

By eliminating toxic relationships and replacing them with positive ones, you’ll see a dramatic improvement in your self-esteem. 

Okay, now it’s your turn. Remember to write down the three negative people you’ll spend less time with and the three positive people you’re going to spend more time with. 

Until then, leave a comment below about how the positive people in your life make you feel. This will bring clarity to you.