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5 Days To A Healthy Self-Esteem 

Day #5: 

Affirm Others 

Welcome to Day 5 of the Self-Esteem Challenge. Wow, you made it! Congratulations! Aren’t you excited? 

Today we’re going to be talking about the surprising power of affirming others. 


Few people realize this, but affirming others is a powerful way to boost your own self-esteem. 

It forces you to think through the things you appreciate about others, which in turn makes you more attentive to your own strengths. 

Affirming others also strengthens your positive relationships, so you can continue to be surrounded by positive people. 

Finally, affirming others often leads to others affirming you, which creates a circle of positive energy. You don’t want to affirm others to get compliments yourself, but it is one hugely valuable side effect. 

Mike Gayle said: “No matter how sure you are of someone's love, it's always nice to hear it.” 

By taking the time to affirm others, you build both their self-esteem and yours. It’s a total win-win. 


Write down the three people who surround you with the most positive energy. 

Now, under each person, write down THREE things that you really appreciate about them. This can be anything, from their sense of humor to their work ethic to their love for nature. It doesn’t need to be anything profound, just meaningful. 

After you’ve written down three items for each person, contact them via phone, email, or text and tell them how much you appreciate them. Affirm their strengths and make no comments about their weaknesses. 

Your goal is simply to affirm them and make them feel good about themselves. 

What you’ll discover as you do this is that it creates a true cycle of affirmation, with you affirming others and others affirming you. 

As this happens, you’ll see your self-esteem leap skyward. 

Remember to affirm 3 people today. After you affirm them, come back and share in the comments how they responded. 



5 Days To A Healthy Self-Esteem 

Day 4: 

Eliminating Toxic Relationships 

Welcome to Day 4 of the Self-Esteem Challenge. Let’s keep the ball rolling! 

Today we’re going to be discussing the important subject of toxic relationships. 


Every person has toxic relationships in their life. People who constantly criticize. Who never stops complaining. Who only focus on the negative. Who dump all their problems on others. 

These toxic relationships are INCREDIBLY detrimental to self-esteem. They make you feel bad all the time and put a dark cloud over your head. 

Israelmore Ayivor said: 

7 things negative people will do to you. They will... 

1. Demean your value 

2. Destroy your image 

3. Drive you crazily 

4. Dispose of your dreams 

5. Discredit your imagination 

6. Deframe your abilities 

7. Disbelieve your opinions 

This is why negative people must be, if not eliminated from your life, then drastically minimized. They will drag you down, crush your self-esteem, and leave you miserable. 

It’s time for you to SURROUND yourself with people who affirm and value you. With people who love you for who YOU are. 


Take out a sheet of paper and write down the three relationships that have the most toxic effect on you. 

Take time to think through this. Who criticizes you the most? Complains the most? Dumps their problems on you the most? Who always makes you feel like garbage. 

Resolve to spend less time with these people. You may not be able to cut these people out of your life, but you can certainly spend less time with them. Or if they are close family, you can approach them about how you feel. 

Now write down the three most positive people in your life. Those who encourage and affirm you the most. Those who make you feel happy. Those who appreciate you the most. 

Resolve to spend MORE time with them. Call one of them immediately and try to set up a time to get coffee together. 

By eliminating toxic relationships and replacing them with positive ones, you’ll see a dramatic improvement in your self-esteem. 

Okay, now it’s your turn. Remember to write down the three negative people you’ll spend less time with and the three positive people you’re going to spend more time with. 

Until then, leave a comment below about how the positive people in your life make you feel. This will bring clarity to you.

5 Days To A Healthy Self-Esteem 

Day 3: 

Eliminating Negative Self-Talk 

Welcome to Day 3 of the Self-Esteem Challenge. Did you do the 10-minute affirmation exercise yesterday? I hope you found them helpful. 

Today we’re going to be talking about eliminating toxic negative self-talk. This is important. 


Many people have their self-esteem sabotaged by unhealthy and negative self-talk. 

You, too, may have a soundtrack of negativity running through your mind throughout the day. 

I should be better. I shouldn’t have done that. No one likes me. I suck at my job. I’m never going to have happiness. 

This negative self-talk sucks you down and puts you under a dark cloud. It kills your self-esteem and causes you to dislike yourself. 

But here’s the thing. 

The negative self-talk is all LIES! None of it is true! 

And it really, really, needs to end. If you want to grow in self-esteem, your negative self-talk needs to DIE! 

Today it’s time for positive self-talk to bloom in your life. 


Today, pay close attention to the self-talk that goes on in your head. You may even want to keep a journal of sorts, making notes about the conversations running in your head. 

Every time you become aware of negative self-talk, stop and write down the negative thoughts in your journal. Don’t be vague. Write down EXACTLY what’s going through your mind. 

Then – and this is crucial – replace the negative self-talk with one of the affirmations from yesterday’s challenge. 

Write this affirmation in your journal and say it out loud five times. Your goal for the day is to have FIVE TIMES more positive self-talk than negative. 

As you do this, you’ll be amazed at the effect is has on your day. 

Remember to keep that log of your self-talk today! 

Tomorrow we’re going to be talking about negative toxic relationships and how you can surround yourself with positive people. 

Until then, please share one of the negative thoughts you encountered and what you replaced it with. Write it in the comments below...

5 Days To A Healthy Self-Esteem 

Day 2: 

Affirming and Accepting Who You Are 

Welcome to Day 2 of the Self-Esteem Challenge. Yesterday, we talked about appreciating your strengths. 

Today we’re going to reflect on and affirm who you are. You don’t need to be someone else, you need to love who you already are. 


Most people have a picture in their heads of who they think they should be. I should be smarter. Better looking. Funnier. Better with kids. Nicer, more loving, more easy-going. 

These ideas have been enforced from a young age by parents, teachers, and even friends. 

This has to stop today. TODAY it’s time to affirm and accept who you are – NOT who you should be. 

Heath L. Buckmaster said: “Often, it’s not about becoming a new person, but becoming the person you were meant to be, and already are, but don’t know how to be.” 

Dalai Lama XIV said: “We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.” 

It’s time to make peace with yourself. To affirm and accept who you are. To put aside ideas of who you should be and embrace who you already are. 


Today, take 10 minutes to say these affirmations out loud and repeatedly, until you actually believe them. 

I have everything I need within myself. 

I have much to celebrate about myself and my life. 

I choose to stop apologizing for being me. 

I love the person that I am. 

I accept myself unconditionally. 

The only approval I’ll ever need is mine. 

Accept others as they are and they in turn accept me as I am. 

The more you affirm and accept yourself, the most your self-esteem will increase. 

Okay, remember to spend 10 minutes on the affirmations! No cutting out early! 

Before we dive in tomorrow, share one affirmation in the comments below that REALLY helped you. 

Tomorrow we’re going to be diving into the amazingly helpful topic of eliminating negative self-talk.

5 Days To A Healthy Self-Esteem 

Day 1: 

Appreciating Your Strengths 

Welcome to Day 1 of the Self-Esteem Challenge. Today we’re going to be reflecting on all your wonderful strengths and gifts. Ready? 


Self esteem begins with loving who you are, accepting who you are, and appreciating your strengths. If you can’t appreciate who you are, you’ll never have good self-esteem. 

Buddha said: “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” 

Mark Twain said: “A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” 

Ask yourself this simple, yet powerful question: 

Do I love myself? 

If the answer is, “No,” that needs to change. 


If you want to be comfortable, you absolutely MUST approve of yourself. It doesn’t matter what others think, it matters what YOU think about you. 

So let’s begin by taking time to appreciate yourself. This is the foundation of self-esteem. 


Get out a piece of paper. Write down TEN things you appreciate about yourself. This doesn’t need to be overcomplicated. 

Are you good at spreadsheets? 
Do you have a good sense of humor? 
Do you do well with kids? 
Do you manage finances well? 
Are you empathetic? 

You MUST come up with at least ten things you like about yourself. No shortcuts! 

If you can keep going, come up with more than 10. 

After you’re done, take the sheet of paper and tape it somewhere you’ll see it a LOT. You want this to be in front of you on a regular basis. 

Remember, you’re valuable and should love yourself. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! 

Okay, now it’s time for you to get busy. Write down the ten things that you love about yourself and in the comments below, please share at least ONE of those things. Come on, don’t be shy! 

And stay tuned for tomorrow because we’re going to be doing some wonderful affirmations that help you accept and love yourself. 

See you tomorrow!